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The Conversation – Stereotypes

Posted on: February 15, 2016


I’m happy to join in on this conversation hosted by Thianna D about stereotypes.

As an author of interracial romance, I’m always interested in talking about stereotypes. Even more important, I’m a black female, so many of the generalizations might affect me as a minority and a woman. One of my biggest pet peeves as a reader and author is fetishizing people because they are a minority.

“I’ve never been with a ________ before.” Not only have I seen this in books, but I’ve experienced it in real life when I was still a single lady. When I heard this from a guy, it was always an automatic turn off, so you can imagine how I feel when I read a book with characters talking about another human being as if they were an alien. In romance, this is pretty common in books written by white authors. Not to say it doesn’t happen in others, but from what I’ve seen, contemporary love stories fetishize human differences more than any. I’m sure many see it as just saying what’s on their mind, but I’ve always thought, does the author ever put themselves in the character’s head? If someone told you, wow, I’ve never been with a ___ before, how would you feel? Wouldn’t it make you feel less than human? An object? It sounds like, man, I’ve never dated a three headed dragon!



When you date that dragon, the statement would be appropriate, but in contemporary stories, show your man or woman treating that other human like a person and not an object. We’re all human, so why not treat that minority, regardless of race, nationality, sexuality, or gender, with respect?

Hope you enjoyed my post. Please visit the other authors on their feelings about stereotypes! http://blog.thiannad.com/the-conversation


2 Responses to "The Conversation – Stereotypes"

I can’t wait until you get the chance to read more from my black trans woman domme- none of the books with her in it have been published yet, but in sharing snippets, I often have people not realize that she’s black- I wonder if I’m doing almost the opposite of fetishization. I also wonder if the difference between our writing is that I tend to write from a non-monogamous perspective and I think the majority of your work is monogamous. In a spin-off that’s waiting its turn to be published, I have one character comment to two others- “It seems you both have fallen in love across racial and gender lines.”

So trying this again because I swear I left a message, but I was half asleep so maybe I didn’t click “post comment.” 😀

Interesting that you’d bring up fetishization. It makes me ponder my Lady Audrey character and how I’ve had people not realize that she’s black. I almost wanna vent- “Do I need a cover art for the spin-off that has her as one of the main characters so I can have a black woman on the book?” I’ve been very careful not to over-exaggerate with her- like I have one spot where I mention her brown thighs and of course, you’ve seen my being silly over people not realizing that her removing her weave shows (from my perspective) that she’s black.

I totally get where you’re coming from. While I’m a white girl, I do have being bisexual and seeing what becomes of that label when authors over-use stereotypes. Some of the language, especially in book tagging, drives me crazy. I always want to see bisexual characters just living their sexuality; that’s what I write, but I don’t see it all that often in others books

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